When you think about your time with your partner, you’re probably pretty happy so far. It has been a long, loving relationship. Clearly, both of you enjoy it… but even after being together as long as you have, he still hasn’t brought up marriage. It’s easy to get anxious and let the mind wander and dwell on thoughts you never want to think about in an otherwise happy relationship.
For instance, you might be wondering, does he not like me enough? Does he want to leave me? The truth, though, is that you haven’t looked closely enough at your relationship for the positive clues that something good is coming. Marriage is a grand yet delicate subject. It can be hard to understand those subtle signs, but sometimes? Well, they can be right in front of your face.
For instance, you might be wondering, does he not like me enough? Does he want to leave me? The truth, though, is that you haven’t looked closely enough at your relationship for the positive clues that something good is coming. Marriage is a grand yet delicate subject. It can be hard to understand those subtle signs, but sometimes? Well, they can be right in front of your face.
Clues in His Speech
He may never mention the word “marriage” or “proposal” around you, but he might’ve certainly talked around it. For example, he might’ve recently brought up a conversation about your future together, such as having children and asking you about your long-term plans. He might remark to you that you’d be a great mother. He also can show interest in your friends’ rings and ask you about your ring size.
Details in his speech matter, as well. If he starts using words like “we” and “us” when talking about the future, then it’s clear that he has officially begun to envision one with you. Commenting about other married couples and showing interest in marriages and wedding events are all signs that he’s planning to propose.
Actions Speak Louder
Action is more important than words. Even if he hasn’t shown any verbal signs, his actions might tell you what’s coming. To make the big event memorable, he may start to spend time redecorating the house. You can start to notice all their "single" stuff disappearing because he is making room for you, both physically and emotionally. Becoming serious about saving money is also a big sign, as marriage can definitely be expensive.
Your partner might want to take a walk down memory lane with you, or ask you to spend a big holiday or event alone with him. If you find random plane tickets in the cabinet, those might be for a vacation together. Furthermore, when the subject drifts to wedding-related stuff, he can start to be nervous or edgy. It’s also a good sign if he begins to pay closer attention to your rings, jewelry, and style.
Enlisting Friends and Family
Not talking to you about marriage doesn’t mean he’s not talking to your friends and parents. To give you a big surprise, he might start to be more secretive about where he is going and hang out with your friends and family without you. Depending on the situation, you might even be banned from certain locations in the house.
He may also check with your friends and quiz them about how to propose to you and talk to your parents to know more about your perfect proposal. If you notice your family's anticipation, your friends’ interest in your partner, or if they claim that he’s different around you – know that these are all positive signs that he’s planning something big. If you’re really curious, why not straight-up ask them for clues?
The Big Moment Itself
It may seem random and out of the ordinary. It may make you cry in joyful tears. But he has been thinking and planning about this moment for a long time. Every detail and subtle signs add up. Your partner has worked hard to make the moment as memorable as possible, so it’s never too late to return the appreciation.
Even if you find out beforehand, you can drop a hint for him so it will become a secret for both of you. Sometimes the wait is more than worth it. And if you ever find yourself feeling anxious, think through everything carefully and see what kinds of hints and clues you can find. You may discover that you’re much closer to the marriage ring than you thought.